It’s that time of year where most people around me still focus on what is coming up – more specifically, how to make the best out of the Christmas and New Year festivities. It is also the time most people relax and reward themselves for their achievements, most likely indulge in chcolatey goodness and drink far too much alcohol.
For me, late autumn/ early winter is the time to take stock and review the year. I find it far easier to set new goals now rather than on 1st January, when the added pounds gained over Christmas and the general relaxation of the past month make sticking to resolutions a lot harder than at any other time in the year. Somewhere, I read that most New Year’s resolutions are broken by day 14 and forgotten by day 28. I can relate well to that.
For the past few years, therefore, I have made it a habit to make my resolutions early – typically around this time. And I tend to find that this way, I can keep going throughout the year and even keep my cool over Christmas.
So, how are we faring against last year?
Last year, I wanted my own house, car (having just passed my driving test), a better job, focus more on craft and writing, to lose weight and to be a decent mummy. Nothing unusual there, I think many of us have a similar list. Honestly, I would say I’ve hit 5 out of the 6 goals, which is a decent score. The major purchases have been made, I got a promoted job with better pay and permanency, I have taken time to cook, bake and craft away and been a fairly decent mummy to my children. The losing weight thing is a work in progress, even if the progress has been negative last year.
So how do I move forward?
- 2018 will be the year that I will regain my target weight. I am 5’3″ and weigh 10st 2. Apart from the time I was pregnant with no.2, this is the heaviest I have been since my university days (and shockingly close to the weight I was towards the end of my pregnancy with the girl). I don’t fit many of my clothes anymore, but I refuse to buy new ones until I have lost weight, so unless I want to dress in threadbare rags soon I need to do something about this. I have already started, with 30min exercise 5x a week, less sugar in the form of liquid caffeine (i.e. Red Bull – I have so far cut down from 4 a day to 2 a day and want to reduce this to 1 a day max.), less alcohol and smaller portion sizes. I don’t snack as a rule anyway, so it’s the food itself that needs to be looked at. More veg, less sugar and less meat.
- 2018 will be the year I regain self-confidence in my appearance. This ties in nicely with my first resolution. With the weight gain and general mania of the last year, I have thoroughly neglected my looks. My hair hadn’t been straightened in months, the dark brown I chose as my hair colour was boring my backside off, I prioritised buying clothes and treats for my children over saving up money for myself and the weight gain meant no new clothes for me anyway. This has got to change. I have already started treating my hair again and re-colouring it towards the purple I loved, bought my first new pair of earrings in years and I am on the lookout for a nice pair of everyday shoes. The clothes will follow once I fit into a size 8 again. Once small changes have been made, I fill start feeling attractive again (something I have struggled with last year), which will also benefit my husband greatly.
- 2018 will be the year I will feel successful in my job. Maternity and quite frankly chaotic circumstances have meant that I was quite unhappy with my performance in my job. With a new job comes a fresh start and I can really now make a go of it. I am developing a project, which will become my baby to nurture at work and which will define my success this year.
These are fewer goals than last year. Mainly, because other things which need sorting in my life all tie in with one or more of the points raised above. 2017 has not been a bad year per se, but it’s been hectic, chaotic and utterly frustrating at times. I don’t know what 2018 will bring. No doubt new challenges will be around the corner, but with things beginning to settle in other areas of our lives now, we’re better equipped to deal with them.
I have already started to implement my resolutions and fully intend to keep them going throughout December and the new year. Hopefully, this time next year I will be able to set new goals, because the ones above will have been completed.